Suggestions for PROACTIVE Solutions:
•The next time you are bored, do something nice for someone else
•Try doing something today that you've always been scared to do
•Make a new friend
•Raise your hand in class
•The next time you get mad and want to say something mean or rude, bite your tongue instead and don't say it
•If you do something wrong, say you're sorry before someone asks you to apologize

The above chart helps students focus on the things they can control. It allows a child to think about whether the person/thing/event that is upsetting them is something they can change. If it is something they can change, it allows them to think about how that should affect their reaction. 
For any given situation, list things you can control within the "Circle of Control". Then list things you may be concerned about, but which are outside of your control in the "Circle of No Control".

Skills that will develop by being PROACTIVE:
1.  Develop motivation
2. Pride in a job well done
3. Responsibility toward self, family, school, community, nation, and the world
4. Initiative & entrepreneurism
5. Thought in making choices - accountability & responsibility for actions and results and knowledge that choices can affect others 

BOOKS THAT SUPPORT THIS HABIT:
King Bidgood's in the Bathtub by Audrey Wood 
Amazing Grace by Mary Hoffman
The Little Engine That Could by Watty Piper
Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day by Judith Vorst 
Mirette on the High Wire by Emily Arnold McCully
The Very Lonely Firefly by Eric Carle
The Carrot Seed by Ruth Krauss
Jeremy Thatcher, Dragon Hatcher by Bruce Coville
On My Honor by Marion Bauer
Someday a Tree by Eve Bunting
Salt in His Shoes, Michael Jordan: In Pursuit of a Dream by Deloris Jordan
The Real McCoy: The Life of an African American Inventor by Wendy Towle
Soda Pop Head by Julie Cook
The Paper Bag Princess by Robert Munsch
I Knew You Could by Craig Dorfman
Just the Way I Am by Sean Covey
Inch by Inch by Leo Lionni
Bob & Otto by Robert O'Bruel

CLICK BELOW TO START SETTING GOALS!

VIDEOS THAT SUPPORT THIS HABIT:

Skills that will develop by
BEGINNING WITH THE END IN MIND:
1. Use critical thinking to organize information
2. Develop self-confidence and self-management
3. Use creative thinking to solve problems
4. Develop the ability to set goals and follow through
5. Develop strong oral and written communication skills

BOOKS THAT SUPPORT THIS HABIT:
Whistle for Willie by Ezra Jack Keats
The Very Busy Spider by Eric Carle
Click, Clack, Moo by Doreen Cronin
Inch by Inch by Leo Lionni 
Galimoto by Karen Lynn Williams
The School Story by Andrew Clements
Pancakes, Pancakes by Eric Carle
Where Do You Think You're Going, Christopher Columbus? by Jean Fritz Lucy
Mastermind by Alan Feldman
Eddie, the Incorporated by Phyllis Naylor
Bobby Baseball by Robert Kimmel Smith
The Very Clumsy Beetle by Eric Carle
Sylvester and the Magic Pebble by William Steig
Horton Hatches the Egg by Dr Seuss
Oh, the Places You'll Go by Dr Seuss
There by Marie Louise Fitzpatrick
The Wartville Wizard by Don Madden
Dream Big, Little Pig by Kristi Yamaguchi
I Can Be Anything by Jerry Spinelli
When I Grow Up by Sean Covey
The Goat in the Rug by Geraldine
Mirette on the High Wire by Emily Arnold McCully
Jackie Robinson: Justice at Last by Geoffrey C Ward & Ken Burns

Make sure even your smallest choices support your goals!

Suggestions for FIRST-THINGS-FIRST Solutions
•What are some of your most important jobs or responsibilities? Practicing the piano? Making your bed? Doing your homework? Taking out the garbage?
•Tomorrow surprise your parents and do your chores before they even ask!
•The next time you have a lot of homework to do, do the hardest part first
•Think of something you have been putting off for a long time, like cleaning up your room, pumping up that tire on your bike, or fixing that broken dresser. Go, do it right now! 

VIDEOS THAT SUPPORT THIS HABIT:

Skills that will develop by putting FIRST THINGS FIRST:
1. Time management skills
2. A strong work ethic, flexibility, & adaptability
3. Self-Management
4. Accountability & responsibility for actions & results
5. Analytical skills

BOOKS THAT SUPPORT THIS HABIT:
The Little Red Hen by Paul Galdone (or another version)
The Very Hungry Caterpillar by Eric Carle
Pigsty by Mark Teague
Froggy Gets Dressed by Jonathan London
Alejandro's Gift by Richard E. Albert
Jamaica's Find by Juanita Havill
The Week Mom Unplugged the TVs by Terry Wolfe Phelan
Irving Black's Strange Snack by Roz Rosenbluth
Esperanza Rising by Pam Munoz Ryan
The TV Kid by Betsy Byars
Justin and the Best Biscuits in the World by Mildred Pitts Walter
The Dot by Peter H. Reynolds
The Three Questions by Jon J. Muth
A Place for Everything by Sean Covey
Berenstain Bears: Trouble with Pets by Stan & Jan Berenstain
Berenstain Bears: Trouble at School by Stan & Jan Berenstain

BOOKS THAT SUPPORT THIS HABIT:
What makes me Happy by Catherine and Laurence Anholt
Life is Fun by Nancy Carslon
I Knew you Could by Craig'Dorfman
Alexander and the wind up mouse by Leo Lionni
The Rainbow Fish by Marcus Pfister
The very clumsy click beetle by Eric Carle
Let's be Enemies by Janice May Udry
The Butter Battle Book by Dr. Seuss
Dragon Stew by Tom McGowen
Law of the Great Peace by John Bierhart
The checker players by Alan Venable
Hiawatha, messenger of Peace by Dennis Brindall
Bartholomew and Ooblick by Dr. Seuss
Pickle Chiffon Pie by Jolly Roger
Bradfield Ball by Mary Sullivan
The door bell rang by Pat Hutchins 
Jamaica's Find by Juanita Havill & Anne Sibley O'Brien
The Moccasin Goalie by William Roy Brownridge
Chrysanthemum by Kevin Henkes
Frederick by Lio Lionni
Little Blue Truck by Alice Schertle
Swimmy by Leo Lionni
Tops & Bottoms by Janet Stevens
Hermit & Crab by Eric Carle
The very noisy night by Diana Hendry
Bagels from Benny by Aubrey Davis
Prudy's problem & how she solved it by Carey Armstrong-Ellis
Sheila Rae, the Brave by Kevin Henkes
Thunder cake by Patricia Polacco
Guji Guji by Robert Guillaume
The Berenstain Bears go to Camp by Stan & Jan Berenstain

When approaching conflicts, a WIN-WIN leader demonstrates:
1. Integrity: Stick with your true feelings, values, and commitments. "One of the most important ways to manifest integrity is to be loyal to those who are not present.'' -StephenCovey
2. Maturity:
Express your feelings by balancing courage and consideration. Yes, you can be empathetic but also confident and you can be considerate and sensitive but also brave!
3. Abundance Mentality:
•I believe there is plenty out there for everybody (ex.Options, success, opportunities, etc.)
•I am happy for the success of others
•I treat everyone with equal respect
•I find it easy to share recognition and credit
•I have a deep inner sense of personal worth and security

4 Steps to a WIN-WIN Solution:

1. See the problem from the other point of view in terms of the needs and concerns fo the other party.
2. Identify the key issues and concerns (not positions) involved.
3. Determine what results would make a full acceptable solution.
4. Identify new options to achieve those results.

~Seeking to understand takes kindness.~
~Seeking to be understood takes courage.~ 
**Effectiveness lies in balancing the two.**

VIDEOS THAT SUPPORT THIS HABIT:

IDEAS TO HELP IMPROVE LISTENING SKILLS:
•Try to go one whole hour without talking even once. Instead just watch the people around you and listen to what they are saying.
•Think of someone in your life who you think is a good listener. Your grandma? Your dad? Your best friend? What do they do that makes them a good listener?
•The next time one of your friends is sad, notice their eyes or the way they hold their body. Tell them you know they are sad and you want to help.

Skills that are developed by UNDERSTANDING OTHERS:
1. Attentive listening skills needed to build and maintain healthy relationships
2. Good social and communication skills
3. Compassion toward others, sharing, and putting others first
4. Ability to relate to people who are alike as well as different
5. Work effectively in group settings

BOOKS THAT SUPPORT THIS HABIT:
My Mouth is a Volcano by Julie Cook
The Runaway Bunny by Margaret Wise Brown
Stellaluna by Janell Cannon
Corduroy by Don Freeman
Frog and Toad are Friends by Arnold Lobel
Roses are Pink, Your Feet Really Stink by Diane DeGroat
Why Mosquitoes Buzz in People's Ears by Vera Aardema
The True Story of the Three Little Pigs by Jan Scieszka
Miss Nelson is Missing by Harry Allard
Hey Little Ant by Phillip and Hannah Hoose
Are You My Mother? by P.D. Eastman
Is Your Mama a Llama? by Deboarh Guarino
Marrying Malcolm Murgatroyd by Mame Farrell
Rules by Cynthia Lord
Veronica Knows Best by Nancy Robinson
The Bully of Baham Street by Leonard Shortall

Skills that will develop by SYNERGIZING:
1. Ability to express and present information and ideas clearly in oral, visual, and written forms
2. Talent to use unique talents and abilities to the fullest while also able to value others' talents and abilities
3. Ability to inspire, motivate, and draw out the best in others
4. Communicate and work as a team in a multicultural and interdependent world
5. Show initiative and entrepreneurism 

BOOKS THAT SUPPORT THIS HABIT:
Swimmy by Leo Lionni
A Chair for My Mother by Vera B. Williams
That's Mine! by Elizabeth Winthrop
The Ant and the Elephant by Bill Peet
The Patchwork Quilt by Valerie Flournoy
Oxcart Man by Donald Hall
Clifford's Spring Cleanup by Norman Bridwell
How the 2nd Grade got $8205.50 to Visit the Statue of Liberty by Nathan Zimelman
Ruby Holler by Sharon Creech
The Chalkbox Kid by Clyde Robert Bulla
Chicken Sunday by Patrica Polacco
The View from Saturday by E.L. Konigsburg
A Wrinkle in Time by Madeline L'Engle

IDEAS TO HELP YOU SYNERGIZE WITH OTHERS:
•Write down three things that you're really good at. Then write down three things that someone else you know is good at, like a sibling, friend, or family member.
•Watch your favorite sports team play a game. Pay extra attention to how all the players work together as a team.
•Talk about what makes a bad team member and what makes a good team member.
•This summer, work with friends to put up a lemonade stand. One person can create a poster, one can make the lemonade, and one can set up the table and bring the cups and ice. 

Skills that are developed by SHARPENING THE SAW:
1. Ability to demonstrate healthy ways to express needs, wants, and feelings
2.Strong self-reliance, self-confidence, and self-discipline
3.Responsibility as a friend & family member
4.Recognition of the relationship between personal behavior and individual well-being
5.Desire to strive to be healthy for life
6.Ability to take care of the body, soul, mind, & heart

VIDEOS THAT SUPPORT THIS HABIT:

IDEAS TO HELP YOU SHARPEN THE SAW:
•For two nights in a row, go to bed early and see how great you feel when you wake up!
•For one whole week, read for twenty minutes each day
•Today go play with someone you haven't played with for a long time
•Go to one of your favorite spots in nature, like a mountain, a park, or a stream. When you get there, think about all the things in your life that make you happy, like your grandma, your dog, a toy, or playing with your friends.

BOOKS THAT SUPPORT THIS HABIT:
Don't Let the Pigeon Stay Up Late! by Mo Willems
The Snowy Day by Ezra Jack Keats
Wind in the Long Grass: a Collection of Haiku edited by William Higginson
Owl Moon by Jane Yolen
Henry Hikes to Fitchburg by D.B. Johnson
Me I am! by Jack Prelutsky
The Mysteries of Harris Burdick by Chris Van 
Uncle Willie and the Soup Kitchen by DyAnne Di Salvo Ryan
The New Kid on the Block by Jack Prelutsky
A Light in the Attic by Shel Silverstein

MAKE SURE TO ASK FOR HELP IF YOU GET STUCK...